Answering your questions

Hello everyone, so recently I’ve been getting lots of messages with questions about manifesting. I thought it would be easier to answer the main questions in this post.

Is manifesting delusional?

Many people feel delusional when they are manifesting and feel like they are fooling themselves or wasting their time. However, if you think about it, isn’t every element of your life an illusion based on your thoughts? Was there ever any evidence for you to think all the negative thoughts you think? When someone tells you, you’re not good enough for a relationship, or you don’t have the experience for a job role, or you can’t win the lottery etc… is there any evidence of that? No!!! All these thoughts are based on another persons assumptions or limiting beliefs on the situation but because someone has said it to you, should you take it to be a fact. No, go prove them wrong, instead of believing their negative story, create you own positive story to obtain all your desires. Don’t ever give anybody else, whether its your parents, friends, employers or society the power to write your life story for you. Take back that control and build your life based on your own assumptions not anybody else’s. I have said this a million times, please don’t believe me, don’t believe Neville or the other great authors out there. The only way you’ll truly build your belief in manifesting is by testing it yourself. Focus on all the desires you want, test the law and see it work for yourself.

Is it necessary to work on your self-concept to manifest?

No, you don’t have to work on your self-concept to manifest but personally I think it really helps. Most of the assumptions we have in life, whether it is to do with relationships, money, success and abundance, are all related to our self-image and self-concept. Most people struggle in certain areas of life due to their low self-confidence and lack of self-belief, that they truly are worthy of obtaining their desires. If you look around and observe the people that have everything they ever wanted. They are normally confident and have assumptions based around how they deserve these things, if not more. This results in them having all their desires fulfilled, and no this has nothing to do with luck but more self-image. If you feel like you deserve the best, you will act and behave a certain way, you will command a certain level of respect, people will treat you in a certain way and you’ll never allow someone to disrespect you because you know your worth. Like many people say you don’t attract what you want but you attract who you are. To attract all your desires into your life, you must first become and feel like the person who is good enough to have all those desires. Therefore, you don’t need self-concept to manifest but I feel having a strong self-image is the true key to developing your manifesting capabilities. Something that is often overlooked in the manifestation community.

Which techniques are the best?

There is no such thing as the best technique to manifest faster. Different techniques work for different people because it is not actually the techniques that manifest but the assumptions, they help you to build. The purpose of a technique is to retrain your brain to think what you desire is already yours, or the event has already happened. With a technique you are trying to replace old negative memories in the mind with new positive memories based on what you do want. Remember the mind can not tell the difference between a real event and imagination, therefore you can trick the mind to think you already have what you desire. It is then the subconscious minds job to obtain that desire for you. It’s not your job to worry about the how and when, you just have to convince the mind this is your new memory, and it will do the rest. Hence, why I always say use a technique that resonates with you, whether it is affirmations, visualisation, scripting or a mixture of them all. The key is not the technique but the repetition, as it is the repetition that builds the new memories in the mind. So, pick a routine that works for you and stick to it.

Do you have to visualise to manifest?

No, you don’t have to visualise to manifest. As mentioned above, you can use other techniques that will help you to build a new story (memory). I would recommend testing all the techniques and seeing which one resonates with you. Also, many people say they can’t visualise. We can all visualise. If I say to you what colour is your front door? A picture of your door has appeared in your mind, to recall the colour of your door. That is a visualisation! People get confused because the image in their mind is not as clear as the real world. The image in the mind does not have to be clear but what is more important is the feeling the image provokes in you. Also, at the beginning if the feeling is not positive that’s fine as your mind will naturally try to resist but with regular repetition, the new story will become more believable. Therefore, persevere and don’t give up.

I have been persisting but why is my manifestation not here yet?

Be honest with yourself! Are you really persisting in the new story and know it’s done; your desire is yours or are you doubting the process and reverting back to the old story, every time you don’t see any movement in the real world? If you’re not seeing any progress after weeks or months of persisting. The likelihood is, you’re still persisting in the old story vs. the new story. If you truly were living in the new story, you wouldn’t be questioning the timings and why it hasn’t happened yet. You would go on with enjoying life, with the confidence of knowing your desire is yours and nothing can take it away from you. Also, please remember there is an abundance of love, money, people and jobs in this world therefore stop chasing after one person or one job. Truly think about what is it that you actually want. For example: do you really want that particular SP or do you want the feelings and emotions they evoke in you? The likelihood is it’ the later, which a number of people can give you. Therefore, focus on yourself, your own happiness, becoming the best version of you and the rest will naturally fall into place.  

How long should it take to manifest something?

This varies from person to person because we all have different upbringings, mental conditioning and thought processes. No one person has the same starting point, because we have all grown up believing different things. The best advice I can give you here is don’t compare your progress to someone else’ but compare it to your own starting point and how far you have already come. Test the law for yourself, start manifesting things in your daily life and this will build your confidence and ability to manifest faster, and this way you will find out what works for you and what doesn’t.

Why can’t I stop the negative thoughts?

The negative thoughts are there because it’s your habitual way of thinking. It’s how your mind has been thinking for many years and now you do it naturally without even thinking about it. Like tying your shoelaces or driving a car. It’s become second natural to you. That’s why at the beginning, trying to change these negative thoughts seems so difficult because the mind will naturally want to revert back to the old way of thinking and it’s your job to stop that from happening. By constantly reminding it, no that is no longer true for you.

This is where the mental diet, plays a big part. You must become aware of what you are thinking. In order to stop negative thoughts, you must know what you’re thinking and where these negative thoughts are coming from. When you have negative thoughts, ask yourself what is it that I believe about this thought? Where did these negative thought patterns come from, who taught me these thoughts and when did I develop them? Once you can identify where these thoughts have come from and acknowledge they’re not from you, but they have been taught to you by other people and they are nothing more than other people’s limiting beliefs or worse case scenarios imposed on you. You are better able to observe them, release them and let them go by replacing them with positive thoughts.

You will always get negative thoughts, but the key is not to dwell in those thoughts or let them take you down that negative spiral. The best way I have found to control my negative thoughts is by focusing on all the positive elements of a situation instead of the negative. Every situation good or bad will be linked to positive and negative thoughts. Make sure you always focus on the positive elements. For example, if your SP has left you, you’re probably thinking of all the negative things that led to the breakup but instead focus on all the positive things that led to you getting together in the first place, the reason they fell for you and you for them. You always manifest what you focus on so why not focus on the positives.  

Is it possible to manifest instantly?

Yes, if you have no or little resistance to something it is possible to manifest something instantly or within a short period of time. However, if you do have a level of resistance to what you’re manifesting, there will be a time lapse for the manifestation to appear in the real world. This time lapse is normally the time it takes for you to move from the old story to the new story. Once your focus is more on what you want instead of what you don’t have, that is when the manifestation appears in your life.

Can I manifest more than one desire at a time?

Yes, once you’ve tested the law and built your confidence in the process. You will see it works all day every day and your thoughts and assumptions impact every element of your life. You are manifesting 24/7, whether you’re doing it by choice or allowing your old habitual thoughts to manifest on your behalf. Everything in your life is there because it was once a thought in your mind, you have attracted it into your being. Due to this, it is possible to manifest more than one desire at a time because you’re doing it anyway.

Big desire vs. small desire?

There is no such thing as big or small desire. A desire is a desire, it takes the same process to manifest a cup of coffee as it does a million dollars. The only difference is your resistance towards one vs. another and the assumptions you hold about the desire. Manifesting should be a lifestyle and you should be using it on a daily basis in all walks of life, for all desires big or small focus on what you do want to manifest the life of your dreams.

I hope this post has helped to provide some clarity 😊

12 thoughts on “Answering your questions

  1. So happy to see the new post! I have a lot of success stories just because of your blog only! (Yours is the clearest guide ever!). After success story with my SP and some others in 2021, I was too happy that i didn’t try to manifest anything else. Lately I’ve been trying to manifest winning competitions for practice. I’ve won the first two competitions. However after manifesting hiatus I kept on getting 4-5th place. I know it’s not important to me so I don’t have a lot of resistance, but i feel like i forgot something. 🤔


    1. Hi Cath, Thank you for your kind words on my blog. I’m always so happy to hear about other people’s success stories, it brings me so much joy. Congratulations on the contest wins, see 4th or 5th place as a win also, and use this success to build your convenience in winning. Remember, there is no such thing as a big or small manifestation. Its all a win… Well Done 🙂


  2. Hi, I would like to ask the following:

    1) I have been affirming for my self concept and my sp for some time. Lately my thoughts and emotions have become negative. Is this normal during manifestation?

    2) When I say affirmations on my sp, there are times I feel no resistance and there are times when I feel horrible. What should I do to counter the resistance and negative emotions? Is repition the key?

    3) Can I affirm in my head instead of out loud?

    4) Are you able to give me an example of inner conversations that I can do on my sp? Some people say it’s basically just affirming, others say to imagine myself talking to my sp. Others say to imagine talking to my friend. Which is which?


    1. Hi Eugene,

      Here I will provide quick answers but I will try to address your questions in more detail in another post.

      1. with affirming it can take 30-90 days to rebuild a new assumption or belief, your thoughts should start to become more positive. You will still have negative thoughts but they won’t trigger you the way they did before.

      2. Repetition is the key to building a new thought process, find an affirmation that resonates with you and makes you feel good and stick to those few and repeat them. Avoid changing your affirmations as when you regularly change them, you’re not giving the mind enough time to realign with the new thought.

      3. Yes, you can affirm in your head, affirmations are just thoughts that go on inside your mind.

      4. This is completely personal and dependent on your end goal but also which makes you feel good and resonates with you more. In my experience it doesn’t matter how you say it but more importantly it is about building the conviction in your mind.

      I hope that helps 🙂


  3. Hi Sia!

    Great article as usual. My question is how to choose the best technique for us and how should we feel when it’s starting to be our dominate state? How many times should we repeat it? (It’s not always possible to do it multiple times a day as we have other things to do in a day).
    Thank you so much!


    1. Hi Laura,

      Thank you for your kind words. Choosing the right technique comes down to trial and error, hence why Neville use to say test the law for yourself. Some people are naturally better at visualizing, whereas others are better at thinking the same thought over and over again (affirming) or others prefer to write their thoughts down (scripting). Choose the one that makes you feel good and in my experience to get faster results do a mixture of them 🙂


  4. Hi Sia. Your blog helped me manifest my sp back after 2 months NC. We were happy and officially a couple for 4 months, all was going well. His fam loved me too and said I was their fave. But now his parents have told him to end it with me coz of something not to do with me, but my fam. They still love me and said its not even your fault but we don’t want to associate with your fam as its stressing them out (they haven’t even met my fam yet but from the first impression they had when they heard my fam on the phone to my bf) Even my fam really liked my BF. I’m hurting now. How do I reverse this? How do I get his fams approval again for us to be together again? We both wanna be with eachother but he said he can’t go against his fam again. I’m trying so hard to get focus on 3d. Please give some suggestions? Thanks x


    1. Thank you for your kind words about my blog. In this situation, I would just affirm his family love me, they accept our relationship and both families get on well with each other. Don’t give any focus to what is happening in the 3D with the families, just enjoy your lovely relationship with your SP and be confident things will work out how you want them too 🙂


  5. Hi Sia!

    First of all, allow me to tell, that I really do like your view on LOA and how straightforward you are.
    I was really on track with manifestation lately, manifested a getaway with SP, just not the commitment part, until suddenly a friend of mine said to just let my SP go, because in their opinion nothing will ever happen and it just hit me so hard, as I wasn’t even asking for any advices/remarks. Now I just want to be completely alone away from everyone.
    What would you do in this situation to flip thoughts back even when feeling apathy?
    Thank you in advance for your answer✨


    1. Hi Jen, exactly it is just your friends opinion, it is not fact nor is it true… How I would deal with this is, I would say no, what the friend said isn’t true and I do not believe it and I would affirm for what I want because I know my thoughts always create and I always get what I want.


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