Why your affirmations may not be working.

In my experience there are a number of reasons, why your affirmations might not be working for you as effectively and quickly as you want.

Copying affirmations from others.

People constantly ask me what affirmations I used to get my SP back or to have the lifestyle I currently have. Don’t get me wrong, you can use other people’s affirmations as a guide, but that is all they should be, is a guide for you to get started. In my personal experience, the affirmations that work the fastest and are the most effective, are the ones that resonate with you. That means they make you feel good about what you’re affirming and help change your current story from wanting to having what you desire. Otherwise, if you repeat an “I am” statement that doesn’t mean anything to you, just because it worked for someone else, then you’re just wasting your time with vain repetition. You can’t fool your mind; your mind knows the language it is used to and the meanings you associate with certain words. So, always use words that mean something to you to help create your new story. As long as, the affirmations make you feel good and help you to focus on the new story, it doesn’t matter if you fully believe them or not. If you’re using the right words, the mind will adapt with repetition and start to believe in the new story. Once your new story becomes your dwelling place, it will manifest into your 3D.

Using affirmations as a quick fix.

Some people use affirmations like they’re a magical potion to get the manifestation. That is not how it works! Affirmations are just a technique to aid you to change the story you’re currently telling yourself. We’re always speaking to ourselves with our self-talk, the mind is always saying something either positive or negative. We all know our thoughts create and the job of the affirmations is to stop you focusing on the negative thoughts and redirect the thoughts to something more positive. Affirmations are a good way to change and align the story you are telling yourself with your desire, but they are only effective if you use them with a mental diet. Think of affirmations as your thoughts, rather than just statements that can magically make your manifest appear out of thin air. The thoughts (affirmations) you focus on majority of the time will become your dominant thoughts and your 3D will start to conform and reflect your inner world into your outer world.  

Regularly changing affirmations or techniques.

This is the most common one I come across. People will try one set of affirmations for a few days or a couple of weeks and when they don’t see any results in the 3D. They start to question the affirmations or the process altogether. People jump from affirmation to affirmations, technique to technique, coach to coach. I regularly get people coming to me asking the same questions over and over again. You must remember, the brain is like any other muscle, you have to train it over time with repetition. The affirmations are there to help you redirect your thoughts and remain in the new story. The more you repeat them, the more believable they’ll become. The most important part is being able to control your thoughts and self-talk and ensure you’re always focusing on the new story.

Forgetting every thought is an affirmation.

Affirmations are your thoughts, so every thought you think is an affirmation. Even, “this is not working” and “it is taking so long” all these are affirmations. So, be honest and ask yourself, are you truly using more positive affirmations throughout the day compared to negative? I know lots of people that swear they’ve been on a strict mental diet and using their affirmations 24/7 but whenever you hear them speaking to someone and posting online, they’re always complaining about the current situation, and how they’ve been implementing techniques for XYZ amount of time and nothing has happened in the 3D. Constantly repeating their old story from the past about how unhappy they are and how unfair life is. Don’t you see, by repeating the old story and making these statements, you’re affirming what you don’t want and keeping yourself stuck in the same place.   

Reacting to the 3D world.

This is similar to the point above, people will affirm and remain on a strict mental diet, but as soon as something opposite to what they’re affirming, happens in the 3D world. Instead of ignoring the 3D and knowing their thoughts create and remaining true to their desire and new story. They end up reacting and falling back into the old story. Then you see them telling people or posting things like “this isn’t working for me”, “The opposite to what I wanted happened, “help me”, “this is a waste of time”, “I need to try something different”. The people who normally get their manifestations quickly are the ones who do not react to the 3D world. When they witness something in the 3D that contradicts their desire, they persist in the new story and they do not allow anything in the 3D to phase them, they power through the difficult thoughts.

Comparing yourself to other people.

Another thing, I see people do constantly is look for success stories and comparing themselves to others. It’s completely normal to look at other people’s success stories for motivation and guidance but you have to understand everyone is different and everyone’s journey is unique. You don’t know another person beliefs, insecurities and current mindset. They’re probably at a completely different starting point to you. Just because it took someone an X amount of time to get their manifestation, and it’s taking you longer, it doesn’t mean you’re not going to get your manifestation. It just means you have more work to do to align with the new story, but you will also get there with dedication. Therefore, never give up on your desire or compare yourself to anybody else. The only person you should compare yourself to, is the old you to see how far you have actually come.

Lacking persistence and patience.

We live in a society where we’re so used to getting everything instantly via an app, therefore having to work hard and be patient is something we no longer recognise. If something is taking too long, we start to get anxious, question it and start looking for another alternative. If you truly believe in the manifesting process and you know your thoughts create. You will understand, once you’ve declared a desire as yours, the work is done, there is nothing more to do but remain in the new story. Ensure all your thoughts are focused on the desired end. The desire is guaranteed and on its way. It will manifest and your only job is to persist in the new story. The 3D has no choice but to conform. It’s like when you order something online, they tell you the delivery will take 3-5 days, you don’t keep opening the door and looking for the parcel every few hours. You believe the order will eventually turn up because you’ve had confirmation from the company. Apply the same principle to manifesting, it’s on its way and will turn up, so there is nothing to panic or worry about, just persist, and know it will happen.

Lastly, remember affirmations are only a technique to help you redirect your thoughts to the new story. It is the focus on the desired story majority of the time, that will actually get you the results.

29 thoughts on “Why your affirmations may not be working.

  1. I feel so embarrassed because everything you mentioned as an example is what I’ve been doing……I’m messing up. No wonder my manifestation is not here. Thank you so much for this, I can reflect on everything that I’ve been doing wrong all this time.

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    1. Stop affirming “I’m messing up” you’re not! Just create a new story of your desired end and stick to it, that’s all you need to do 🙂 x

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  2. Hello there. I want to ask a question. If my sp doesnt know me, will my affirmations and visualizations work for some other girl???? I’m so scared that everytime I’m imagining myself with him I get this anxiety in my tummy and I stop myself. Should I not do it since he isnt aware of me and all my work might happen for the wrong person? What should I do about this?

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    1. Basically, what you think will happen will happen, the story you are constantly telling yourself will manifest into your 3D. If you keep repeating, what I am affirming for my SP will work for someone else, that is what you risk happening. It doesn’t matter if you know your SP or not, most relationships start of as strangers. If you believe they want to be with you, they will.

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  3. Can you tell me and please do a blog on what I see in my minds eye is real ? If having a hard time believing it exists and feeling delusional. In my minds eye I see myself being married to my SP.

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    1. I can write posts about this all day long but the only way you’re going to believe the law is by testing it yourself and finding a way that works for you. Test the process with other things in life apart from your SP, like money, friends, other desires. When you see things happening as you stated, you will start to build your belief system.

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  4. Hi. I have seen a recurring pattern in my life that I cannot seen to solve. If I do something ‘supposedly wrong’ or perceived wrong or something I think is not on the same wavelength as another, the other person stops talking to me or stops taking the initiative to reach out themselves. I first noticed this regarding my SP and now I have noticed this with two work colleagues. This time I refuse to give up and I have been revising the situation and affirming everyone only remembers the good I did. But I don’t see any change in the everyday behaviour of my work Colleagues.

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    1. When you’re affirming, ensure you’re also changing the inner self talk and conversations that is the important part. Keep affirming and persisting. Don’t doubt it by saying I don’t see any change, this shows you doubt more than you believe.

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  5. But is it that they won’t change? I’m trying since long but I don’t even see a flicker of change in them. N after imagining when they are doing opposite in 3D like not talking to me how should I navigate through the day when they are around?

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    1. When you’re thinking of them or you see them, what are the thoughts going through your head? Is it what you’re affirming or is it I don’t see any change in them, they are still acting this way. You have to monitor your self talk when you’re not affirming, this will tell you your current state of mind.

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  6. But how do I affirm the opposite when I see them doing the opposite or no change? Despite them acting opposite I should affirm my desired change in them ?

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    1. That is the whole process of manifesting, believing your thoughts are more powerful than the 3D, having conviction in what you’re affirming and persisting with it because you know it will eventually appear in reality. If you’re just mindlessly repeating affirmations without changing your self talk, you’re missing the point.

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  7. If our sp is someone that doesnt know us and they live in a different country is there a possible way of us meeting each other in person? I saw a comment on a video asking how can we manifest our sp if they dont know us and there is no possible way of meeting each other because they live in another country and that discouraged me.

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    1. Circumstance do not matter, you can have anything you want if you believe you can and are able to convince your mind. People meet people from other countries and get married all the time. My dad is British and my mum is Canadian, they met at a family wedding and got married. We just have to declare what we want and go to the end, the how and when it will happen we don’t need to worry about, things will move and conform to make it happen. The details don’t matter, what happened in the past doesn’t matter. All that matters is knowing what you want, ensuring most of your thoughts are focused on your desire and you persist with the new story no matter what the 3D shows you until it conforms.

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  8. Hi there. I have been trying to manifest my SP since so long that I see no movement so I want to give up but yet I can’t give up. I have had a desire to be with my SP since the longest time but we get back together n break up again. I will ask my question in three parts. Firstly is it possible to get back with him if I can imagine it? secondly should one be guilty of having a specific desire?Lastly what I see in my imagination is God/my imagination is GOd ?

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    1. Manifesting is very personal and what works for one person may not work for another because it is based on your belief system. I personally believe you can manifest anything you want and desire and there is no need to feel guilty about it. There is more work required than just imagining yourself with your SP, that is the start and every desire you can imagine can be yours if you put in the work. In my personal opinion to get a desire to appear in your 3D you have to change your belief system and believe you can get it, this is done by changing your thoughts, mindset and story. Look at your story “I have been trying to manifest my SP since so long that I see no movement so I want to give up but yet I can’t give up. I have had a desire to be with my SP since the longest time but we get back together n break up again.” If this is what you keep repeating in your thoughts daily, this is what you will continue to get.

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  9. Ok I will go through all of this. Thank you. But I am confused that is my imagination really God himself? What I see and perceive in my mind is God ?

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    1. Neville Goddard compared the imagination to being god. So instead of asking /praying to god to grant you your desire, he taught that god is within you, your own imagination and thoughts are god that are in control of your desires not a god outside of you.

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      1. So if my imagination is God then my desire to be married with my SP is real and created if I can perceive it?

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      1. Focusing thoughts ….. umm ok like how? How to make that switch of being in contact when I’m not ? Being married to her when I’m not in the 3D. Clearly I want it very much but how can I get it ?

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      2. I have mentioned this in many of my posts, you have to reprogram your mind to think more positive thoughts from the desired end than negative. This can be done in various ways affirmations, scripting, visualising etc… You have to find something that works for you and put in the work yourself, there are no quick fixes. I suggest reading Neville Goddard and Joseph Murphy and finding what resonates with you.

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