Hi everyone, firstly apologies I have been MIA for a while. It’s been a really busy year for me. Plus, I didn’t want to keep writing posts for the sake of it. The only way you’ll fully benefit from the posts on here, is by reading the information, digesting it, but more importantly, by implementing it into your daily life.

“Often the difference between a successful person and a failure is not one has better abilities or ideas, but the courage that one has to bet on one’s ideas” – Maxwell Maltz.

To this date, the most asked question I always get is about my SP and how I got him back. People want to know, exactly how I did it, how I got him back and changed him into the person I wanted him to be. I have written about this many times, but I think the main point, that is overlooked or missed by many is. Yes, I managed to get my SP back, and he is the most amazing version of himself now and I used the law of assumption and various techniques to achieve this but looking back the most important part of getting him back and actually keeping him in my life, as the version I wanted. Was not doing affirmations, or techniques, but actually working on myself and changing my self-concept.

People must understand that our life is created by the thoughts and assumptions we hold, about ourselves, others, and situations. We all attract various people and opportunities into our lives, but our ability to fully exploit them, is always dependent on our self-image and how we truly see ourselves. If we think we are worthy and deserve that opportunity, we will make the most of it, and excel at it, because we know we can do it and we’ll have the confidence to take full advantage of what is being offered to us but alternatively, if something comes into our lives and our self-image isn’t great and we don’t feel worthy of something. Then people always unconsciously self-sabotage the opportunity, with insecurities, self-doubt, and negativity.

We all know people, who aren’t the most attractive, intelligent, or knowledgeable people in the group, but they always seem to excel at everything they do. Life is easy for them; they attract all the right opportunities and people into their lives, to make the most of every circumstance that comes their way. People normally say that person is so lucky etc, but it doesn’t come down to luck, it all comes down to self-image, which relates to self-confidence. These people excel at everything they do, because of their self-belief in themselves, and a strong self-image. They know they deserve and are worthy of everything they have; hence why they attract more of it.

Relating this back to the SP, the reason you’re not with your SP has nothing to do with them or the circumstances of the relationship, but everything to do with you. Therefore, to get them back your focus shouldn’t be them, but it should actually be you. If you truly want to get your SP back and build the life of your dreams, you must stop concentrating on techniques and affirmations to get the SP back but instead use that energy to build yourself back up and make sure you become the best version of you, the type of person your SP would want to be with. To attract the best into your life, you must first become the best in your eyes, that is the only way you’ll ever feel worthy of the best. Don’t do it for them, do it for you, because you deserve to be happy.

Stop living in the past, and what happened years, months or even weeks ago, we can’t change the past, it has come and gone. Forgive yourself for the past, we all make mistakes. Don’t dwell on the past negativity. Move on and start living in the future, based on your desires and ensure your present is focused on becoming a better version of you. Plan your future, what do you want the future to look like, what do you want to accomplish. Remember, you attract what you focus on, so ensure you focus on what you want instead of what you don’t want.

Whilst you’re manifesting, instead of waiting for the manifestation to come into the 3D, because waiting will only attract more waiting. Use that time wisely, time is precious. Invest that time in yourself. Exercise, eat healthy, spend time with family & friends. Enjoy life, laugh, dance, sing, learn a new skill. When you invest in yourself, you’ll see the whole world around you will change. You can have anything you want, only if you have the courage to believe in your own abilities. You are the key to your happiness, don’t give that power or burden to someone else, it will only lead to disappointment. If you are happy within yourself, you will have the ability to make the people around you happy and you’ll no longer need validation from others to feel good.

Please never settle for something you don’t want or bad treatment from someone, just because you’re scared of losing them. When you truly work on yourself, you’ll know your own self-worth, and you’ll never allow someone to treat you in such as way. If that happens, you will be the one walking away with your head held high, not them. Once you put yourself on that pedestal, others will be chasing you and begging to be around you and, in your company, not the other way around.

Raise your standards, believe you are the most amazing person in the world. People ask me but isn’t that delusional, if it feels delusional, then be delusional, it’s better than being desperate. Your thoughts, and what you focus on manifests. So, make your thoughts and words work for you, instead of making them work against you.

If you are struggling to believe, if manifesting is true or not. Then the best way to make yourself believe is by putting the information into practice. Work on yourself, do it for a minimum of 21 days and prove it to yourself. What do you actually have to lose!

“If you can dream it, you can do it” – Walt Disney

Make 2022 your year, all about being the best version of you for you 😊

If there was one thing about conscious manifesting, I wish I could get across to everyone. It would be, believe in yourself and your ability to manifest. You have the key to your manifestation, it’s all within you. Stop overcomplicating the process. Every question, you have about manifesting, only you have the answer to it. Your thoughts turn into things, what you focus on and give attention to, will manifest into your life. Therefore, it all comes down to your mindset, if you believe you can, then you can, if you believe you can’t then you can’t. It really is that simple!

I get so many questions about if I do this will it impact my manifestation, if I have a negative thought or doubt will it impact my manifestation? The answer is simple, if you believe it will, then it will, if you believe it won’t, then it won’t. We give everything a meaning in our lives, based on our perception of a situation, therefore you always choose whether to see something as a positive or negative. This should be an impowering feeling, because it means you know you are always in control of your life.

Normally the things that are standing in your way of conscious manifesting, are:

• The stories you tell yourself and other people.
• Your limiting beliefs
• Fears and consequences

In order, to successfully manifest anything you want, you have to convince your subconscious mind that it is possible. It is your subconscious mind and thoughts that are creating your reality.

That is why it is so important to work on your self-concept. You don’t have to love yourself, but you do have to think you are worthy and deserve to obtain your desire. So, if you want an SP, you have to convince your subconscious mind you are the sort of person your SP would want to be with. If you want XYZ amount of money, you have to convince your subconscious mind, it is easy for you to make that much money. This journey is always about you, not your SP or money. When you look in the mirror do you believe you are the sort of person, who deserves to have all these amazing things in life.

As far as doubts and fears go, will you get doubts and fears. Of course, you will, you’re human and it is natural to get negative thoughts and doubts, but they will not impact your ability to manifest, if you recognise they have no power over you. You should not allow them to spiral out of control, you should be in control of your feelings and thoughts, because you know you have the power to accept or reject them. You are able to understand despite of these doubts and fears, you will get your manifestation because you know you deserve it and it’s already yours.

So now you’re probably thinking how do I make myself believe! There is no right or wrong way, you can use whatever technique you like. The most important part is to practice the technique on a regular basis to impress the subconscious mind. I find so many people want to keep learning and reading, but there is no special formula you can learn to manifest, you have to put in the work and practice on a regular basis and test the law. This is the only way you will learn what works for you. When you start to see the results in the 3D, this itself will build you belief system. I could tell you a million times this works, and you can have anything you want but until you witness it with your own eyes, you won’t truly believe it.   

You don’t have to 100% believe your manifestation is yours, but you simply have to believe it is possible for you and you are a person who is worthy and deserves to have your manifestation. Once you accept your thoughts turn into things, you deserve and can have anything you want, and you practice regularly. Your mind will naturally become calm, because you’ll no longer be desperate for your desire because you know it’s on it’s way. You will understand you are completely in control of your life, and no one or nothing can do anything to you, or take away your power.

This is a requested post; I hope to provide some clarity on the topic. I think there is so much confusion around living in the end, due to the law of attraction community. Based on my personal experience of conscious manifesting, living in the end is not about pretending your desire is yours or acting as if in the 3D. Walking around acting like your SP is with you or spending money like you are a millionaire. I find trying to do this, is what makes people feel exhausted and delusional. As Neville stated what is in your imagination is more real than what’s in the 3D, therefore, the living in the end should be done in your mind, it’s a state of mind. So, there is no need to act or pretend.

To live in the end, you must identity what your actual end goal is, for example some people will say they want contact from an SP, but what they actually want is to be in a loving committed relationship, or people will say they want to have a certain amount of money but what they actually want is to be rich and successful. Can you see the difference? Don’t get me wrong, you can definitely manifest in steps but to live in the end, you must always have site of your end goal. Otherwise, you’ll manifest contact from your SP or a certain amount of money but that would be the end of the manifestation.

Living in the end, basically means you’re confident what you desire is yours, it’s on it’s way and you’ll get it no matter what. It’s about changing your current assumptions and beliefs, to align with your end goal.  “All you can possibly need, or desire is already yours. Call your desires into being by imagination and feeling your wish fulfilled” – Neville Goddard.

The feeling Neville is referring to is not a feeling of happiness or excitement, these are all emotions. The feeling Neville is talking about, is a feeling of confidence, faith and belief. A feeling of knowing it’s done. Therefore, you don’t have pretend you’re happy all the time or act like you have something you don’t. You simply live in your 3D, like you will get what you want, it is guaranteed to come to you. You don’t have to worry or be desperate for it, it’s yours.

Once you desire something, know that it is already yours, you can have it. The techniques (affirmations, SATs, scripting) are there to help you live in the end and remind you, that your desire is yours. Techniques are a reminder of your desire, not a way to get your desire, because your desire is already yours. If you accept, your desire is given to you by your god self, then there is nothing to fear, you don’t have to do techniques 24/7 to get what is already yours. The techniques are there to aid you during the times of doubt.

Remember you are human therefore, the doubts, fears and negative thoughts will pop up from time to time. It is ok to acknowledge them and accept that is how you feel in this moment.  You don’t have to try to supress those feelings, just let them past. However, it is important to not dwell or focus on those thoughts. This is the time to persist and remind yourself, that your thoughts create and you’re in control and you will get what you want, never let anything contradict your desire. You won’t be able to manifest, if you’re constantly contradicting your desire, you can’t serve two masters at once. This is what causes delays in your manifestation. If you continue to assume your desire is yours, it has no choice but to harden into fact, it’s the law.

Monitor your thoughts and inner conversations, see how you speak about your desire and the world around you; this will give you a clear indication of your current state of mind. Stop focusing on the thoughts of lack and desperately needing your desire. To live in the end is simply knowing that the thing that you desire is coming, it’s inevitable, that is all it takes for it to manifest. 

Creation is finished, once you have a desire it is yours, it already exists, there is nothing to create. You must accept the desire is yours in your mind. Live in the end by not allowing any thoughts, doubts or fears to contradict your desire. Your faith in your desire must be stronger than any fear or doubt. Remain confident it will soon appear in your 3D reality and it will. You can have anything you want, the only person you must convince is yourself.

“Most of us are totally unaware that our inner conversations are the cause of the circumstances of our life” – Neville Goddard.

Throughout my manifesting journey one of the most important lessons, I’ve learnt is that your self-talk creates your reality. The conversations you have with yourself, and what goes on inside your mind, is what is dictating your future. If you can master your self-talk, you can master manifesting.

A strict mental diet basically means monitoring the thoughts we think and focus on throughout the day and ensuring the thoughts we entertain are positive and from the desired end. These thoughts usually change throughout the day and go from positive to negative, we never stay in the same state or mood all day long. However, it is our job to observe our thoughts and ensure we redirect them when we see them going down the negative spiral.

Self-talk and inner conversations are just the thoughts that are running in the back of our mind on autopilot, the way we speak to ourselves in our mind, the conversations we have with ourselves about our desires and the conversations we have in our mind about and with other people. This is your inner voice, either it is motivating you, telling you, you can do something and have something, or it is limiting you by telling you something is not possible, and you can’t have it. For example, when you think of your desire, what is your inner voice saying to you? That will give you an indication of the current beliefs.

This voice is not bad, or something to worry about. It is just your subconscious mind trying to protect you based on your past experiences. We all build a defence system, and limitations based on what has happened in our past, this is human nature. For example, as a child you touch something hot, and you burn yourself, your mind automatically remembers that incident and next time you go to touch something hot, the mind will stop you to protect you. That is all your mind is doing with your limiting thoughts and beliefs.

However, these limiting thoughts and beliefs are not set in stone, with a little work they can easily be changed. This is done by retraining your mind, with new thoughts and beliefs. Understand life is not happening to you, you are creating it with your inner conversations.

Therefore, it is so important to carefully listen to and monitor those inner conversations going on inside your mind, understand what you are think and focus on. If any of those thoughts or conversations are not positive statements about your desired end, that means those thoughts no longer serve you, therefore you need to change them to what does serve you and relate to your desire. A mental diet is usually the best way to do this, it involves observing your thoughts and changing the negative conversations into positive thoughts and conversations.

• “I can earn the amount of money I want”.
• “My SP loves me so much”.
• “I always get what I want”.
• “Manifesting is so easy for me”.

At the beginning when you try to change your thoughts and inner conversations, the mind will naturally try to resist because the new thoughts and statements will not be believable and feel uncomfortable to the mind because this is not what the mind is use too but if you persist and keep flipping the thoughts the mind will eventually adapt to the new statements. Because the mind learns by repetition, the more you repeat the new statements, the quicker it will start to believe them as true.

It doesn’t matter if negative thoughts come up, they will and this is normal, but you must remain on a strict mental diet, this means even when the negative thoughts come up you acknowledge them, but you do not focus on or entertain that thought for too long. Never allow the negative thought to spiral out of control and cause you anxiety.

Treat the inner voice like a child, when it is telling you something negative, gently remind the mind, I hear you but that is not true anymore, this is what is now true for me, so you don’t need to worry.

For example, if the inner voice is telling you:

“Your SP no longer loves you; he/she has moved on”.

You need to tell your inner voice:

“No that is not true, he/she loves me so much, they only want to be with me, what happened in the past is no longer important, it’s the past. I always get what I want”.

The most important thing is, in those inner conversations with yourself, you must always have the last word. Make sure the inner conversation is always left on a positive thought, never leave a conversation with yourself on a negative thought. The last thought or statement is usually what manifests.

Everything in your life can change and change quickly, as soon as you become aware of the inner conversations you are entertaining about yourself and others. Control your mind, instead of letting your mind control you.

Can you get your SP back and have them treat you exactly how you want? Of course, you can! All your desires are there for you to have because everything you desire, desires you. If you can see it in your imagination, you can bring it into your reality.

Basically, you need to understand your thoughts and inner self talk is what is controlling your SP and their behaviour towards you. That is why when you’re able to control your thoughts, you can intend for them to show up in your life, however you want them too. Think of your thoughts as instructions for them in your life, they will only act and do things that you assume and expect them to do. Therefore, if you assume, they love you, they miss you and only want to be with you. That is exactly how they must appear in your life.

The best way to recreate your SP and relationship, is by changing the story you’re running in your mind about them. Completely forget about what has happened in the past, what has been done and said. That is no longer relevant, nor does it serve you. The dominant thoughts you focus on majority of the time, will always manifest. Therefore, whenever you’re thinking of your SP, ensure you always concentrate on the good memories and qualities about them and your relationship. Focus on how you want the future with them to be. Instead of rehashing the past and attracting more of that into your life. Stop robbing your SP of the ability to come into your life as a loving, caring and loyal person. Remember, you give everything a meaning in your life, learn to only see the good in everything, because you will always find what you look for in people. If you look for the good, you will see the good, if you look for the bad, you’ll find the bad.

Remind yourself your SP does not exist outside of you, they don’t have any free will in your world, therefore they are not thinking anything, you don’t want them too. They do not have the ability to hurt or reject you, unless you give them that power over you Therefore, do not allow the 3D world or them to dictate your feelings or emotions. All that matters is what you’re thinking and the thoughts you’re entertaining about them and the relationship. Remember, the work is always done inside the mind, and not in the 3D. That is why it is so important to ignore them and concentrate on what you want, because you always get what you focus on. They are only mirroring back to you your inner thoughts, as soon you start to change your thoughts, you’ll notice them starting to change and conform. Once you start seeing movement, this will help to build your belief system.

The key is to persist. Circumstance do not matter, if they say or do something that you do not like, just ignore it and tell yourself that is not true for me. Immediately forget about what has been said or done and jump back onto your affirmations. You need to stop the negative thoughts and feelings spiralling out of control, by redirecting your mind to the desired situation. Every time you think of your SP or the past, that is when you should be affirming.

Your belief in your desire, must be stronger and more real than your fears and what the 3D is currently showing you. Once your desired end is more real to you than the 3D, and the circumstances in your current reality no longer impact you emotionally. That is when your reality will start to swift and bring your desire to you. You do not have to lift a single finger, the world around you will conform and everything will come to you.

Even if you have been affirming for a while, never give up and doubt the process because you do not know what is happening in the background to bring your desire to you. People and things can be moving that you may not even know about. If it is taking longer than expected, you should truly be honest and assess yourself. Every time you think of your SP, are you affirming and focusing on the new story, or are you still dwelling in the memories of the past. If it is the latter, you need to change that immediately and ensure your focus is on your desired end.  

The moment you feel like giving up, that is the moment you need to affirm the hardest and persist in your desire and claim it as yours, because that is just your minds way of testing you, to see if you will stay true to your desire or fall back into your negative thought patterns.  

Just persist and never give up on your dreams. Nothing is out of your reach if you really want it.

Before I start this post, I just want to mention everything I write here is my own personal opinion, and I absolutely have nothing against mediums, psychics, astrologers or tarot readers. Nor am I being judgemental towards people who do or have used their services.

In fact, before I started my law of assumption journey and found Neville. I had a very unhealthy obsession with psychic readings myself. My negative thoughts use to spiral out of control to a point I could not control them. I would get so anxious, and not know what to do with myself. I felt I needed to find the answers to my problems, but instead of turning within and learning to control my own thoughts. I turned to psychics out of desperation for support and guidance, in the hope they could tell me my future.

The information they provided in the readings would be very general, but I would make it fit and give it the meaning that I wanted and when it was information I did not want to hear. I would think it was because that particular psychic didn’t resonate with me. The more I had these readings, the more I started to rely on them. To a point where I wasn’t able to make a decision without feeling the need to consult a psychic. It had literally become an addiction and these people were only feeding the addiction, by taking away my ability to think for myself. They were literally dictating my life for me. Now I look back and feel so silly, not just for the money I wasted with these people, but also the time I spent stuck in life by literally giving my power away to a complete stranger.

Personally, I don’t think anybody has the ability to predict your future apart from you. If people had this ability, believe me they would not be wasting their powers, giving readings for a living. I do think there are some people out there, who are good, and can pick up on your current energy. Because everyone is you pushed out, they normally reflect back to you what is going on inside your thoughts. They can pick up on what your current state of mind is but that’s about it. No one can tell you what is going to happen in your future because that is all created by your very own thoughts. So, what most psychics do is, they plant a seed in your mind, tell you this is what is likely to happen, and because you believe in them, your mind takes that information, and assumes it to be true, and as we all know what we assume to be true for us, and what we focus on, will manifest into our 3D reality. So, when you think a psychic has told you something that has come true. It’s simply because you have focused on it and manifested it into your 3D world not because a psychic’s prediction has come true. If you go to psychics, look at your own experience with them. I bet you probably have some things that came true, because you believed them, and some probably didn’t come true because you didn’t believe them. Surely, if a psychic has powers and can predict the future, the results should be consistent, and not a hit or miss! Also, there is a reason why psychic websites claim all readings are for entertainment purposes only. All these readings are doing is giving you a false sense of hope and reassurance.

You have to realise only you have the power to change everything in your world. You need to stop looking for signs outside of you. The 3D world isn’t going to change until you change your inner world because the 3D is just a reflection of your inner thoughts and beliefs. So, take back the control and believe in your own powers as much as you do in other people’s.

I get asked so many questions about how to ignore the 3D or how to deal with your current reality, when it is showing you something completely different to what you’re trying to manifest.

In my opinion and personal experience, ignoring your 3D does not mean you ignore what your current reality is and pretend you have something that you don’t. This kind of thinking comes from the law of attraction community, where you are told to “act as if” you already have what you want in the 3D world. Personally, I don’t think that works well, especially if you’re a beginner to conscious manifesting. It can be very difficult to convince your mind, you have something in the 3D, when you clearly don’t. This type of “act as if” can leave you feeling drained, frustrated and thinking you are delusional.

I personally think ignoring your 3D means, ignoring the negative thoughts of the past and current reality, ignoring the circumstances and scenarios that you keep repeating in your mind that no longer serve you. Ignore overthinking thoughts like, because this happened in the past, that means this will not happen in my future etc… Ignoring your 3D to me does not mean you ignore your 3D world altogether, and you go around ignoring your work responsibility, you ignore friends and family, you ignore going out so you can stay home and affirm 24/7. Plus, why would you want to do that, everyday you’re alive is a blessing, enjoy your life, do things that give you happiness and pleasure, don’t waste your time being desperate and pining for your desire. That’s not how it works.

You have to understand the 3D is dead, it’s an illusion based on your past thoughts, there is nothing you can now do to go back and change those thoughts to change your current 3D. All you can do is change the thoughts you are now thinking to change your future reality. That’s why, the work is always done inside the mind not in the 3D. You’re affirming 24/7 therefore you have to ensure your thoughts and self-talk align with your desired end, but in your day to day life you go about your business as normal, you go to work, go to the gym, go out, have fun and live life to the fullest but in your mind ensure your thoughts are positive about your desire because that is what is creating your future reality.

You don’t have to go around pretending you’re with your SP or a millionaire in the 3D, when you’re not but in your mind, your thoughts should be aligned to the desired end.  “I know my SP loves me” “I know I am surrounded by wealth and money” and have the conviction because you’ve declared your desire as yours, even though it may not be in your reality at the moment, you feel 100% confident it will happen soon and nothing can stop it from happening, because you know your thoughts create your reality.

It is the same when something happens in your 3D that is opposite to what you have been affirming. Remember you give anything a meaning, just don’t accept that as true for you. I know when I was manifesting my SP back and something in 3D would come up and start creating negative thoughts. I would just tell myself “no that is not true for me, I don’t accept that”. I would keep affirming “My SP was my husband, and he is so in love with me”. I would say it with so much confidence, until my mind would reject all opposing thoughts.

This is where changing your story based on the past or present is so important, from “they did this” “they don’t want me” “it ended so badly” to something that serves you and aligns with your desired end “of course he loves me” “I know he only wants to be with me”. Even if you are not seeing the results in your 3D at the moment, know that your thoughts and self-talk are creating your tomorrow and if you continue to persist the 3D will conform. Never give up and fall back into the old negative thought pattern.

Remember our thoughts are very powerful, they have telepathic powers, we are communicating with people miles away, who we may not have even spoken to in a while, by our thoughts. Imagine, other people could hear every thought you were thinking, and they used those thoughts as instructions for their actions. Would you be thinking what you’re thinking now, knowing that could create in your reality? People will always appear in your life, how you assume they will appear. Start to understand the power of your mind and use your thoughts wisely, to consciously create what you want instead of what you don’t want.

Once you declare something as yours, and stay true to that desire with full conviction, it has no choice but to appear in your 3D.

“Claim you are what you want to be. Persist in that assumption. Continue to assume that role until that which you have assumed is reflected in your world.” – Neville

Persisting simply means you focus your thoughts on your desired end, until it is reprogrammed into your subconscious mind and becomes your dominant thought. Even though, you may not see your desire in the 3D right now, you do not know what is happening in the background to bring your desire to you. Therefore, always continue to persist until your desire shows up in your reality and remain faithful to the fact your manifestation is on its way.

Don’t worry too much about the 3D and what’s going on around you. Get into the habit of learning to control your thoughts and mindset. Realise, it doesn’t matter if you have a negative thought or event pop up, it doesn’t have any power over you, and you can easily change it. Start to practice controlling your thoughts and redirecting them. Remind yourself all your desires are being fulfilled, everything is working out for you in your favour, you know how to manifest, and you always get what you want.

The only thing that can stop you having your desire, is you! Your continuous focus on the past, present and negative thoughts. Change your mindset, to focus on what you want and slowly your 3D world will conform.

So, it’s simple! Declare what you want as yours, ensure your thoughts are aligned and focused on the new story and continue to persist in that new story. Live your life in the 3D as normal, enjoy life knowing that even though your desire may not be here yet, but because you have declared it as yours and you know your thoughts create, it will be here very soon. There is nothing to worry about, nothing to fake, just go on with life knowing you will get everything you ever wanted and much more.

In my experience there are a number of reasons, why your affirmations might not be working for you as effectively and quickly as you want.

Copying affirmations from others.

People constantly ask me what affirmations I used to get my SP back or to have the lifestyle I currently have. Don’t get me wrong, you can use other people’s affirmations as a guide, but that is all they should be, is a guide for you to get started. In my personal experience, the affirmations that work the fastest and are the most effective, are the ones that resonate with you. That means they make you feel good about what you’re affirming and help change your current story from wanting to having what you desire. Otherwise, if you repeat an “I am” statement that doesn’t mean anything to you, just because it worked for someone else, then you’re just wasting your time with vain repetition. You can’t fool your mind; your mind knows the language it is used to and the meanings you associate with certain words. So, always use words that mean something to you to help create your new story. As long as, the affirmations make you feel good and help you to focus on the new story, it doesn’t matter if you fully believe them or not. If you’re using the right words, the mind will adapt with repetition and start to believe in the new story. Once your new story becomes your dwelling place, it will manifest into your 3D.

Using affirmations as a quick fix.

Some people use affirmations like they’re a magical potion to get the manifestation. That is not how it works! Affirmations are just a technique to aid you to change the story you’re currently telling yourself. We’re always speaking to ourselves with our self-talk, the mind is always saying something either positive or negative. We all know our thoughts create and the job of the affirmations is to stop you focusing on the negative thoughts and redirect the thoughts to something more positive. Affirmations are a good way to change and align the story you are telling yourself with your desire, but they are only effective if you use them with a mental diet. Think of affirmations as your thoughts, rather than just statements that can magically make your manifest appear out of thin air. The thoughts (affirmations) you focus on majority of the time will become your dominant thoughts and your 3D will start to conform and reflect your inner world into your outer world.  

Regularly changing affirmations or techniques.

This is the most common one I come across. People will try one set of affirmations for a few days or a couple of weeks and when they don’t see any results in the 3D. They start to question the affirmations or the process altogether. People jump from affirmation to affirmations, technique to technique, coach to coach. I regularly get people coming to me asking the same questions over and over again. You must remember, the brain is like any other muscle, you have to train it over time with repetition. The affirmations are there to help you redirect your thoughts and remain in the new story. The more you repeat them, the more believable they’ll become. The most important part is being able to control your thoughts and self-talk and ensure you’re always focusing on the new story.

Forgetting every thought is an affirmation.

Affirmations are your thoughts, so every thought you think is an affirmation. Even, “this is not working” and “it is taking so long” all these are affirmations. So, be honest and ask yourself, are you truly using more positive affirmations throughout the day compared to negative? I know lots of people that swear they’ve been on a strict mental diet and using their affirmations 24/7 but whenever you hear them speaking to someone and posting online, they’re always complaining about the current situation, and how they’ve been implementing techniques for XYZ amount of time and nothing has happened in the 3D. Constantly repeating their old story from the past about how unhappy they are and how unfair life is. Don’t you see, by repeating the old story and making these statements, you’re affirming what you don’t want and keeping yourself stuck in the same place.   

Reacting to the 3D world.

This is similar to the point above, people will affirm and remain on a strict mental diet, but as soon as something opposite to what they’re affirming, happens in the 3D world. Instead of ignoring the 3D and knowing their thoughts create and remaining true to their desire and new story. They end up reacting and falling back into the old story. Then you see them telling people or posting things like “this isn’t working for me”, “The opposite to what I wanted happened, “help me”, “this is a waste of time”, “I need to try something different”. The people who normally get their manifestations quickly are the ones who do not react to the 3D world. When they witness something in the 3D that contradicts their desire, they persist in the new story and they do not allow anything in the 3D to phase them, they power through the difficult thoughts.

Comparing yourself to other people.

Another thing, I see people do constantly is look for success stories and comparing themselves to others. It’s completely normal to look at other people’s success stories for motivation and guidance but you have to understand everyone is different and everyone’s journey is unique. You don’t know another person beliefs, insecurities and current mindset. They’re probably at a completely different starting point to you. Just because it took someone an X amount of time to get their manifestation, and it’s taking you longer, it doesn’t mean you’re not going to get your manifestation. It just means you have more work to do to align with the new story, but you will also get there with dedication. Therefore, never give up on your desire or compare yourself to anybody else. The only person you should compare yourself to, is the old you to see how far you have actually come.

Lacking persistence and patience.

We live in a society where we’re so used to getting everything instantly via an app, therefore having to work hard and be patient is something we no longer recognise. If something is taking too long, we start to get anxious, question it and start looking for another alternative. If you truly believe in the manifesting process and you know your thoughts create. You will understand, once you’ve declared a desire as yours, the work is done, there is nothing more to do but remain in the new story. Ensure all your thoughts are focused on the desired end. The desire is guaranteed and on its way. It will manifest and your only job is to persist in the new story. The 3D has no choice but to conform. It’s like when you order something online, they tell you the delivery will take 3-5 days, you don’t keep opening the door and looking for the parcel every few hours. You believe the order will eventually turn up because you’ve had confirmation from the company. Apply the same principle to manifesting, it’s on its way and will turn up, so there is nothing to panic or worry about, just persist, and know it will happen.

Lastly, remember affirmations are only a technique to help you redirect your thoughts to the new story. It is the focus on the desired story majority of the time, that will actually get you the results.

I’ve been receiving lots of emails, asking if I would do a “how I got my SP back” course. There is no specific technique that is required to manifest an SP back. Manifesting isn’t complicated, in fact it is easy, we are doing it all the time, but to be able to consciously manifest, you have to be willing to dedicate yourself to the process.

In this post I will share how I personally manifest ALL my desires.

Step 1: Know what you want.

Be very clear about your desire, be as specific as you can. What is it that you actually want and why, be completely honest with yourself, what will you achieve and how will you feel when you have what you want? Some people say they want their SP but truly what they are searching for is love, security, acceptance, and companionship. Having a clear idea on what you desire and why, will help you create your new story and keep you focused on the end goal.

Step 2: Change the story

Identify what habitual thoughts are keeping you stuck in the old pattern. Decide from this point onwards, you are going to drop the old story, it’s the past therefore no longer relevant to the future. There is nothing you can do about the past, you can’t go back and change it, so it’s best to forget it. Revise it if you have too, but the plan is from this point onwards the old story remains where it should, in the past.

Circumstances do not matter, and what’s happened in the past does not matter. Accept all these unfavourable situations happened due to your past habitual negative thoughts and realise only you have the  ability to change and control this. This is why self-concept work is so important, to emphasis your own abilities and powers. Spend some time working on your self-concept, testing the law on other desires, you have less attachment too, this will help build your faith in the process.

Now you realise you’re the god of your reality and your thoughts create your life. Think of a new story, if you were the author of your book, how would your dream life be, and what type of person would you be, what would you do, how would you speak etc. Imagine if you already had your desire right now, how would you feel and how would you behave. Really take your time to think about this part. Embody being that person right now, the person you would be if your wish was already fulfilled. You don’t have to have your desire in your life to embody being that person.

If you had your SP in your life, would you sit around sulking in your PJ’s all day missing them, would you be waiting around for them to call, if they were already calling you? Would you be questioning if the process worked and looking for other techniques. The answer to this is probably NO, doing all these things is just confirming, the old story and keeping that in your reality.

Step 3: Affirm & Mental Diet

Now you have constructed a new story about your desire, you have to get your mind to accept it. You can use whatever technique you like to reprogram your mind to accept the new story as true for you. You can use SAT’s, scripting, affirmations, or a combination of them all. The aim of the techniques is to impress the subconscious mind with the desired state or thoughts and reprogramme the mind into a new way of thinking. You want to trick the mind into thinking your desire is already yours.

Personally, I prefer affirmations because they help me to control my thoughts throughout the day. We’re always affirming something to ourselves with our self-talk, either we’re focusing on thoughts of the past and the old story or we’re focusing on the future and our desires. Looping a select number of affirmations, helps me to quickly get into the state I desire and prevent my negative thoughts from spiralling out of control.

Mental diet is so important, regardless of what technique you use. There is no point affirming, scripting and doing SAT’s for an hour or two, if for the rest of the 22 hours, you’re still thinking of and focusing on the negative thoughts and old story. A mental diet should be a lifestyle change, not something you apply to just get your desire. It must be maintained, otherwise you’ll just fall back into the negative habitual thoughts. Your dominant thoughts, beliefs and assumptions always manifest. You don’t have to believe something 100% for it to appear in your 3D. I’ve never 100% believed in any of my manifestations until they were physically in my 3D but you do need to believe in the process and have confidence it will happen. The new story needs to be your dwelling state, the thoughts your mind naturally focuses on, when you’re not consciously controlling it, that is the point you need to get too.

Step 4: Repeat & Persist

The key here is repetition, no matter what technique you chose to practice, just make sure you’re doing it on a regular basis. You must remember you’ve been thinking in a certain way for a number of years, and have built up old beliefs and assumptions, that need to change. The only way you’re going to be able to make your mind adapt to the new way of thinking is with continuous practice and consistency.

Do not react to anything in your 3D, continue to persist in the new story. Have faith in the process and know that if you continue to focus and persist, your desire will soon be in your reality. If you keep repeating the old patterns, its insane to think the outcome will be any different. So, what do you have to lose by persisting in the new story?

With your SP, if your current focus is, we’re not together, they don’t love me, there is no contact. That quickly needs to change to we’re so happy together, they love me so much, they’re always contacting me. Every time you get the old thoughts, you need to be able to change them to what you do desire. Keep repeating and looping and eventually your mind will be reprogrammed to accept the new story, and this will be where your focus naturally goes.  

Step 5: Know it’s done!

Finally, claim and declare it as yours and know it’s on its way. You will know when this is done, when you start to feel natural about the desire, you have full confidence it’s yours and nothing can stop you from having it. Nothing that happens in the 3D will phase you from the desired state. The time it takes for something to come true in your reality, is the time it takes for you to convince your mind, that it is true. It is done, almost guaranteed to happen. If you persist for long enough, the 3D world around you will start to conform.

The people who struggle to manifest in my experience are the ones who are constantly jumping from one coach to another, jumping from one technique to another, jumping from one course to another, constantly changing their affirmations after a couple of days. The key to becoming good at anything in life is practice and finding your own unique way that works for you. You can’t keep learning forever, reading hundreds of books and posts, watching endless amounts of YouTube videos. All this is doing is keeping you stuck in the learning trainee phase. Eventually, you must take the leap of faith and put what you have learnt into practice, that is when you’ll start to believe and truly learn, what works for you and what doesn’t.

It’s like learning to drive, two people can take driving lessons from the same instructor, but one might pass their test the first time, the other might fail and take five attempts to pass. This is because the instructor can only teach you the principles of driving, but your ability to drive will come from you. How you learn and your capability to put those learnings into practice.  So, there is no need to keep endlessly trying to learn something so basic. The key to manifesting is always test the law for yourself, the proof is in the pudding.

If you’re doing the process correctly, you shouldn’t be feeling drained or tried. It should be a fun process, thinking about your dream life. The only difficult part is the beginning when you’re changing your old habitual thoughts, so you have to consciously be aware of what you’re thinking and focusing on. Learn to stop yourself, falling back into the old habits, if you’re dedicated, after 21 days you’ll notice it’ll become so much easier because you’ll start to form new habits.  

It all comes down to the mindset, having the ability to trick your mind to think you deserve to have and will have what you desire. How much you really want your desire and how much you’re willing to sacrifice and dedicate yourself. If you believe you can, then you can, if you believe you can’t then you won’t, you’re always right!

You can do this, believe in yourself as much as you believe in others and you’ll get there, I promise!

If you’ve been following conscious manifesting for a while, you’re probably very familiar with terms such as think from, state and new story. With so much information out there, all these terms can get very confusing, but basically it all means, kind of the same thing. Your own imagination and thoughts are what is creating your entire world. You are always telling yourself a story, you live from that story you are telling yourself, and this story is what causes your state. You are the author of your life story, so why not make it a good one.

You are manifesting your whole life based on the story you are telling yourself in your mind, by your thoughts and inner self talk. Most people get caught up in the old story, based on their fears, thoughts, experiences, and allow the past to dictate their future. You end up repeating the old story from the past, overthinking that situation and this is what is creating your future.

When we refer to a story in manifesting, it’s basically the story that is constantly running in the background of your mind. It’s usually on autopilot and normally repeating an experience or situation from the past. When you constantly keep dwelling (this means thinking and entertaining a thought for a period of time) from that old story, that becomes your dominants thought, and you continue to repeat that story, play it over and over again in your mind like a movie. This is what is keeping you stuck in a rut, because based on the basic principles of manifesting, you get what you focus on. If you keep focusing on the past, what went wrong, how sad you are, that is what you will continue to get more of.

If you want to change what you’re currently experiencing in your 3D world, you must change the story or movie you are playing on repeat in your mind. Think of it like this, you’ve been given the power to be the author of your own life. You can rewrite your whole story from this point onwards. Imagine, how you’d want your future self to be, what do you want to experience in life, who do you want to be surrounded by. Think of your dream life and write that story, right now and become the lead actor of your movie in your mind. Have fun with it, imagine playing that new character in your mind, how would they behave, how would they feel, how would you talk. You can embody that person right now. Remember, you are the author of your life, therefore everything and everyone in your story must play their roles, exactly how you want them too. Nothing can happen in your story, unless you say so, and if you’re not happy with something, simply change it by rewriting another story.

Nothing stands between you and the fulfilment of your dreams but facts – and facts are the creations of imagining. If you change your imagining, you will change the facts – Neville Goddard.

Here is an example of an old story vs a new story of someone trying to manifest their dream job.

Old story (current reality):

• There are no good roles out there
• I don’t have the experience to get my dream job
• I never succeed in the interview process, they always select other people
• There is so much competition for my dream role
• It’s so difficult to get into this organisation

New story (desired reality):

• I always get every job I want
• It was so easy to get my dream job
• I am the perfect candidate for this role
• I love my new job I am so good at it
• My boss thinks I’m amazing and I’m the best person for the job

Can you see, as soon as you start to think from the new story, this will automatically change your feelings and state, from wanting to already having. Now imagine the mindset change you would have, going from being someone who is living from the old story to someone who is living from the new story. Would both these people have the same mindset and act the same way, of course they wouldn’t. You must be the person with the mindset of who already has their desire and is living from the end of that new story.

You can have, been or do anything you want, you are the god of your reality and all your desires are there for you to obtain. You don’t have to worry about the how and when. You must simply do the work and dedicate yourself to controlling your thoughts and changing your mindset. The desire is already yours, so accept it as yours and truly live from the new story. You know the 3D will eventually conform, it has too. Therefore, you know you don’t have to look at the 3D world for reassurance because your new reality in your imagination is more real than the 3D world.

The most important part is, you must persist in the new story even if the reality pushes against you. You will know you’re completely living from the new story when nothing in the 3D world can phase you or move you from your new state. Where your mind is occupied by your desired thoughts more than the past or current reality. When you have full faith and confidence your desire is yours, nothing can take it away from you, it’s inevitable, even if it’s not happened yet, it will, and nothing can stop it from happening.

Have that much faith in your new story that it becomes an unshakable fact, and if you persist in it for long enough, you will always see the results in your 3D world.