At the moment, are you the one who is begging, wanting and chasing the SP? Well, that’s all about to change. Is it possible to flip this scenario around, so your SP is begging, wanting, and chasing you? Of course, it is, and this is how to flip it around easily!
The reason your SP has all the power right now, is because you have given it to them. Are you constantly thinking any of the following thoughts?
- They are so perfect
- I am not good enough for them
- They can get anyone they want
- Why would they want to be with someone like me?
- I need to always be available for them otherwise they will find someone else.
- Are you always bending over backwards to make them happy?
- They never call or arrange to meet you?
- Do you always fear them leaving you?
If any of these statements are true, that means you have put your SP on a pedestal and are viewing them as some sort of god or goddess. They are so high up on that pedestal, that you can never reach them. Everybody is you pushed out, therefore, the vibe you’re giving off to your SP is, you’re not good enough for them. If you’re not good enough for them, and they can do better than you. Why would they ever want to be with you? Would you want to be with someone, who you thought wasn’t good enough for you? I bet you the answer would be NO, right? As humans, we always want what we can’t have or something that we feel is desirable to us and there is nothing desirable about a desperate, needy person begging for your attention.
When they pull back, you chase them out of insecurities and fear, but all this is doing is pushing them further away, because all your thoughts are of desperation and lack. Instead of chasing, begging and over contacting them, you must align your thoughts with what you do want and the desired end.
If you are serious about getting your SP to chase you, the first thing you must do is, take them of the pedestal. Realise, they are just a normal person, there is nothing special about them. That you are giving them this much power to treat you like a second-class citizen. The first step to getting your power back, is to take your SP of the pedestal and put yourself on there instead. Remember, you are the creator of your own reality, therefore you should be the most important person in your world. People will always treat you, how you allow them to treat you.
To put yourself on that pedestal, you must work on your self-concept. The best way to do this is to fully accept and recognize, that your imagination and thoughts are what is creating your reality, and you and only you are in control of your world. You accept that you’re the most important person in your life, no one can do anything to you, without your permission. Therefore, you should write a new story about yourself, where you’re the god or goddess on that pedestal. Feel super confident, highlight all your good points, why someone would want to be with you, all the things you have to offer them and how they’re lucky to have someone like you. This new version of you, should be the person, your SP would want to pursue to date, you’d be the priority, and someone no one can resist. Basically, you’re reversing the roles in your new story, instead of you chasing your SP, now they are chasing and begging to be with you. It doesn’t matter, if you don’t believe these things at first, if you keep repeating them, it’ll soon start to feel real.
Now you’ve recreated yourself into this super confident god or goddess. You need to do the same with your SP, recreate them to be the kind of person you want them to be. Create a new story, where they are constantly pursuing you, they’re always calling you, they are doing everything you ever wanted. They are the perfect partner, and you have the perfect relationship. You must focus on what you want, instead of what you are current getting in the 3D world. Your SP does not have any free will in your reality, you aren’t forcing them to do anything. You are simply changing your perception of them. All you’re now doing is creating a more favourable version of them, by directing your thoughts in a more conscious way. Remember you’re the star of your show, the SP is just an extra in your film, keep this in mind when you’re recreating your story.
This new story you’ve created about yourself and your SP, is your living from the end. You can create a list of affirmations, script, or visualise an end scene, to keep yourself in this new story or state. Of being in the perfect relationship with your SP, where they’re constantly pursuing you. Keep repeating this new story whenever your SP comes to mind. The aim is to replace the current story, where your SP is ignoring you or not treating you how you’d like them too with this new desired story, where the SP is now pursuing you. As always, repetition and persistence are the key, the more you replace the old story with the new story, the quicker it will impress on your subconscious mind and appear in your 3D reality. Remember everyone is you pushed out (EIYPO), change your assumptions about your SP and relationship and they will change and conform, it’s the law. All you must do is ensure you keep a strict mental diet to persist in the new story until it appears in your 3D world. Remember, all this work is done in your mind, all your thoughts must align with the desired end. The 3D is only an echo of your past thoughts; therefore, it is irrelevant. The more disciplined and dedicated you are to the new story, the quicker it will happen. If you persist in the new story for long enough, eventually this will be reflected into your 3D, it is inevitable.
I have mentioned this in my SP success story. The mental diet is the most important part, and it must be a lifestyle change. Getting the SP back is the easy part, keeping them and getting them to stay in your 3D reality as the person you want them to be, requires a complete change in your mindset. You cannot just do it temporarily to get your SP back and then revert back to the old way of thinking. Otherwise, you will get them back and lose them again, once the old negative thoughts start to come back. Hence, why you must ensure you stay on top of your mental diet, and understand your thoughts are creating your life on a daily basis, so only entertain the thoughts, you’d like to manifest into your reality.
Remember, this is your life, your story, so make it a good one.
Imagination is Life 
The desire to be married to my SP exists in me. Can perceive it too. But we are no contact. Circumstances bad. How do I create story in mind about him chasing me ? And how to make lifestyle change in mental diet once he back ? I keep assuming I’m the best ?
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The circumstances and no contact doesn’t matter. That is your old story, if you keep focusing on that, you will end up getting more of what you focus on. You have to change that to a new story of what you want, the new story should be of your desired end. It is different for everyone, so there is no generic answer to that.
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Yes but we had on off relationship. Then because we had a hiccup in our sexual life I started feeling guilty that I disappointed him. Then we went no contact. But I have a strong very strong desire and wanting to be with him and marry him. I feel he is my soul mate. What do I do ? I create myself and him in my imagination as I want? Then 3D match ?
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The past or current reality doesn’t matter, ignore it. Yes, create yourself and him how you’d like your relationship to be in your mind, focus on that as your new reality and if you persist in that assumption and ignore the 3D, the 3D world will conform. The time it takes to conform, will depend on how dedicated you are to the new story in your mind.
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Many thank you. Meanz if my desire crystal in my mind like crystal clear of state of being married to SP meanz it is fact ? It exits. I’m not creating… only selecting right ?
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Yes, it already exists, you’re not creating anything just declaring it has your new reality.
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This was so great. I noticed my guy changed quite a bit and has stopped making plans/chasing/is just hot and cold with being into me. It’s all a story we tell!
What are some great affirmations? I feel I’m mad saying them!
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Watch your thoughts, they will let you know why you’re creating the hot and cold behaviour. Affirmations should be unique to you and your situation, use what resonates with you. The most common ones I use are; “he loves me so much, he’s always thinking about me, he calls and messages me all the time, we’re in a loving relationship”.
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Hello! I’ve discovered your blog through one of my closest friends and I wanted to share how mind blown I am by the information and amazing content you share. I don’t know if you will see this but if I could please ask a question because I’ve had a little bit of a problem being a 100% disciplined in running my thoughts. My sp is popular and I see all these famous females being all over him and it bothers me and gives me huge anxiety because they post some fan edit pictures of my man with them and it makes me feel very uncomfortable. I am also younger than him with 8 years and these girls of course are older than me and this is my biggest block that I have towards him. I feel scared of rejection because I’m younger than him and society is very limited when it comes to age gaps in couples and I want my person to be open minded about this and love me for who I am in my heart and only be loyal to me. Can you please give me an advice on this because its been eating me alive for quite a while.
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Hi Ellie, Thank you, I’m glad to hear you’re enjoying the posts. Firstly, you need to STOP with the story you are telling yourself, he is popular, his fans, other famous women, age gap. Remember, you get what you focus on, so you need to STOP this. Your thoughts create your reality therefore consciously only entertain the thoughts you want, he is yours and only yours, the other woman are just his colleagues, so they’re irrelevant, he is only attracted to you, he only has eyes for you, he loves everything about you, including your age. The current 3D and circumstances are irrelevant, they only exist because you focus on them. To create a new future focus on what you want. I hope that helps 🙂
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Hello darling! Thank you so very much for answering me! You have no idea how happy you made me. I actually teared up when I finished reading your lovely reply, no joke. I’m stuck in a rut with all these opposing thoughts that I have towards my person. Thank you a million times for everything you do! I appreciate you so much. God bless you, ma’am!
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You’re welcome, you can do this, remember if you can learn to consciously control your mind, you’ll easily manifest your desires.
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If what we desire is a promise from our God self, why do we see other people ,for example, trying to manifest the our sp. Did I create that with my fears?
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Your desire is a promise from your god self but you have to stay faithful to that desire to manifest it. Everything is created by your thoughts, look at your thoughts, what are you thinking, I am not good enough for my SP, they can do better etc… your thoughts will indicate your state.
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this has helped me look at things from a different perspective. me and my sp are very compatible & i KNOW he loves me, wants commitment with me & only desires me. i guess my insecurities come from his past because his ex fling is the same ethnicity and gender as me & she had tried to come back into his life but he refused to let her back in his life at all. also in the same breath, he let me go even though he said he didnt want to-he said he isnt ready because his past reappearing brought back memories of them two since he got attached to her & it was a very unhealthy dynamic for him. since febuary, we havent been together & ive been persisting even though it gets really hard at times. we bumped into each other at the mosque & the next day he was looking for me-he watches my IG stories within minutes sometimes seconds & this past sunday, we ended up being 4 minutes away from each other w/o either of us knowing we would be in the same area. I guess what im getting at, im fighting to drive attention away from the when and the how because my fear is affirming, visualizing and him not coming back even though i shouldnt think that way-i also want to completely omit the ex fling. i know he only has eyes for me & i affirm 3-5 affirmations about him max & the rest is all about me. & there has been contact here & there between us-we never left anything off on a bad note, he did it in the most gentle way possible & even admitted that he has feelings for me, he felt like he isnt ready due to not being over his ex fling at the time- i truly believe he only has feelings for me & i know he wants to be with me as well-my issue is the how because i have an idea of how he wants us to get back together-theres a lot that has happened like i got a really good job i didnt apply nor inquire about & the job is near the same mosque him & i ran into each other at. i can go on & on but i know how he feels about me-i guess my anxiety, insecurities & doubts are wrapped up in the how even though i know its all coming together in the 3D-for the most part, since march ive been affirming & persisting immensely & ive noticed a shift but of course it hasnt happened yet- how do you take the focus on the how & when? that is where my anxiety tends to become immense
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Firstly, you need to stop repeating the old story about the past and about the ex, every word and thought is an affirmation. The thing is work on your self concept, if you truly believe you can manifest and have anything in your life, you would live in your 3D knowing it’s done, you have declared he is yours so he has no choice but to appear in your 3D that way. If you truly had confidence your desire was yours, you wouldn’t look for signs in the 3D, you would enjoy your life and go on knowing it’s a done deal. If you’re always looking for signs, emotionally reacting to the 3D, or asking where is it, that means your self concept needs work. These things will only delay your manifestation.
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I am getting ignored by my sp. I have been practicing affirmation and visualization for over some time but no change is there. Sometimes I feel demotivated like is it even working or not. But I do keep affirming. Can you tell me how to be motivated and how much time will it take? I have been only focusing on affirmation all day. Can you also tell me that should I contact him or should I only manifest him and he’ll contact me himself?
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Hi, when you say affirmations and visualisations are not working. I would recommend you take a look at your mental diet, when you’re not affirming and visualising what story are you telling yourself? If you revert back to the old story (my SP is ignoring me) that is the reason it is not working. Focus on every thought you think about your SP and make it a positive one.
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Hi Sia,
I’ve just found your blog and I’m realling blown away by your deep understanding of Neville’s teachings and how you explain it. I’m not even sure if you’re still doing the blog, but I’m hoping you see this and reply. My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years – on and off for some of the last 2. Always about me wanting more romance, words, promises for a marriage and future together. We got back together around Thanksgiving after 3 months apart. We’ve been having the most wonderful time and I was in the state.
Then his son who has bi-polar blurted out that he found texts between his dad and another girl and he worried that he was cheating on me. I was devastated. My SP told me he had a brief fling w her before we met, but yes, he had been texting her to console her about some recent passings. He shared she was 30 years younger (I’m 48, he 52) this was Christmas Eve that I found out. We never really satisfied the conversation and I could feel myself breaking down. Being short, feeling angry and betrayed. I was just so tired of giving so much only to not get enough back.
He left me alone after dinner last night, I didn’t know where he went. I spiraled. We went home and while home it built and built and i ended up hitting him on his head. I’ve never done anything like that before w him or anyone else. He immediately said it’s over, there’s no coming back. I cried buckets of tears and he just asked me to leave.
I know it’s said that circumstances don’t matter – but this feels like something we can’t come back from. Even though I know there are ways for every desire to come – I’m just so lost.
Any thoughts you can provide are truly appreciated.
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Hi Jennie, I do not condone physically hitting anyone. If your negative thoughts are leading to this level of anger. I would suggest, identifying your negative thoughts and working on your self concept and yourself before even attempting to manifest a SP. I hope that helps.
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Hey Sia!
I love your blog, and I find myself coming back to it when I feel demotivated … I have a question . I’ve been with my boyfriend for a while, but lately I feel like he doesn’t prioritize me and spending alone time as much, as well as I feel like I’m always the one who has to do things for him , but he doesn’t do as much for me (for example, he never does a certain sexual act I really want him to do), and overall he feels very stubborn and immovable in this version . I manifested a lot in the past, but I feel like a hurdle with him, for some reason he feels almost ‘impossible’ to change to do all these things and be more “romantic” . Also, I thought I was doing really well mentally (and feeling it real), no resistence, but then something in the 3D happened that triggered me and when I talk to him it blew up into an argument, where he almost ended it (but we ended up making up). He said he never was going to leave but when I asked him about it later, if he’d leave or not come back he said “idk”, and got annoyed if i kept asking, which caused me to wake up and have this really dreadful feelings and anxiety… Any advice?
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Change the story and narrative you are telling yourself. Thoughts turn into things, these thoughts need to be managed. The only thing triggering you is yourself.
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Is it always wrong to take action? If had an argument with my sp and I got angry , and acted in a melodramatic way (because he didn’t treat me well), can I reach out to say I’m sorry? I behaved like this because I felt hurt, but maybe it was too much. I was thinking to text him because I’m afraid he thinks I’m arrogant, so maybe I could write something ”I’m so sorry, I acted like this because…”. Could it affect my manifestation (especially if I’m afraid he’ll block me or delete my number) or sometimes is acting something good? Sometimes acting worked for me and sometimes not. I feel like I’m gonna make a mistake whether I act or not, beacuse I know we shouldn’t do nothing in the 3D, but at the same time I feel like I have to text him or he’ll think I’m arrogant. I don’t know if t’s just my ego talking
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You can take action but as long as it’s not from a point of desperation and you won’t be triggered by it if it doesn’t go your way.
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