How to get your SP back and turn them into the person you want.

Can you get your SP back and have them treat you exactly how you want? Of course, you can! All your desires are there for you to have because everything you desire, desires you. If you can see it in your imagination, you can bring it into your reality.

Basically, you need to understand your thoughts and inner self talk is what is controlling your SP and their behaviour towards you. That is why when you’re able to control your thoughts, you can intend for them to show up in your life, however you want them too. Think of your thoughts as instructions for them in your life, they will only act and do things that you assume and expect them to do. Therefore, if you assume, they love you, they miss you and only want to be with you. That is exactly how they must appear in your life.

The best way to recreate your SP and relationship, is by changing the story you’re running in your mind about them. Completely forget about what has happened in the past, what has been done and said. That is no longer relevant, nor does it serve you. The dominant thoughts you focus on majority of the time, will always manifest. Therefore, whenever you’re thinking of your SP, ensure you always concentrate on the good memories and qualities about them and your relationship. Focus on how you want the future with them to be. Instead of rehashing the past and attracting more of that into your life. Stop robbing your SP of the ability to come into your life as a loving, caring and loyal person. Remember, you give everything a meaning in your life, learn to only see the good in everything, because you will always find what you look for in people. If you look for the good, you will see the good, if you look for the bad, you’ll find the bad.

Remind yourself your SP does not exist outside of you, they don’t have any free will in your world, therefore they are not thinking anything, you don’t want them too. They do not have the ability to hurt or reject you, unless you give them that power over you Therefore, do not allow the 3D world or them to dictate your feelings or emotions. All that matters is what you’re thinking and the thoughts you’re entertaining about them and the relationship. Remember, the work is always done inside the mind, and not in the 3D. That is why it is so important to ignore them and concentrate on what you want, because you always get what you focus on. They are only mirroring back to you your inner thoughts, as soon you start to change your thoughts, you’ll notice them starting to change and conform. Once you start seeing movement, this will help to build your belief system.

The key is to persist. Circumstance do not matter, if they say or do something that you do not like, just ignore it and tell yourself that is not true for me. Immediately forget about what has been said or done and jump back onto your affirmations. You need to stop the negative thoughts and feelings spiralling out of control, by redirecting your mind to the desired situation. Every time you think of your SP or the past, that is when you should be affirming.

Your belief in your desire, must be stronger and more real than your fears and what the 3D is currently showing you. Once your desired end is more real to you than the 3D, and the circumstances in your current reality no longer impact you emotionally. That is when your reality will start to swift and bring your desire to you. You do not have to lift a single finger, the world around you will conform and everything will come to you.

Even if you have been affirming for a while, never give up and doubt the process because you do not know what is happening in the background to bring your desire to you. People and things can be moving that you may not even know about. If it is taking longer than expected, you should truly be honest and assess yourself. Every time you think of your SP, are you affirming and focusing on the new story, or are you still dwelling in the memories of the past. If it is the latter, you need to change that immediately and ensure your focus is on your desired end.  

The moment you feel like giving up, that is the moment you need to affirm the hardest and persist in your desire and claim it as yours, because that is just your minds way of testing you, to see if you will stay true to your desire or fall back into your negative thought patterns.  

Just persist and never give up on your dreams. Nothing is out of your reach if you really want it.

59 thoughts on “How to get your SP back and turn them into the person you want.”

  1. this is the best and perfect post to read for understanding and clarification and when you feel discouraged, your work is helping me a lot – thank you

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  2. So like it means since I can imagine being married to my Sp it exists and desire is real. But in my 3D we are in no contact and separation. How do I proceed to get my desire ?

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    1. Yes, you can definitely have your desire. You need to change the old story “we are in no contact and separation” to the new story “being married to my SP”. Focus on the new story instead of the old story.

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      1. So as I understand what you are saying (a) if I can imagine something means it exists. So since I can imagine being married to my SP it exists. (b) my thoughts should be from the state of already being married to my Sp even if my 3D is completely different and I persist

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      2. Exactly, ignore the 3D it is based on your past thoughts. Your thoughts now should be from the desired state because that is creating your future.

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  5. Hi. Amazing post as always. You say ‘ everything you desire, desires you ‘. This line …….. how are you so sure of this. I don’t ask in a questioning way but just wanted to know if you have read this specific thing somewhere or something told you ……. if possible please direct me to any lecture or book you read it in thanks

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    1. Thank you, for the kind words on the post. This is an interpretation of what Neville Goddard said in Feeling is the secret. I recommend you read it.

      “All you can possibly need or desire is already yours. You need no helper to give it to you; it is yours now. Call your desires into being by imagining and feeling your wish fulfilled.”

      The Law of Assumption works on what you assume/believe is true for you, will be true for you. If you believe your desire, desires you then it will. However, if you believe what you desire, doesn’t desire you then that is also true. I hope that helps 🙂

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    1. I would suggest reading Neville and to familiarise yourself with the concept the 3D is dead, it was created by your past habitual thoughts. The thoughts you’re thinking now is creating your tomorrow, therefore only focus on what you want to create in your future.

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  9. How to make sure youre not having thoughts about lack without knowing? Ive read that when you dont see results it might be because you are secretly thinking of lack, but in a way you dont realise. For example the focus could really be in “im manifesting”
    Can i think that its going to happen? Can i get impatient?
    Its hard not to think about sp cause i think things would be a lot more fun with him.

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    1. The best way to know what your dominant thoughts are, is think of your desire and observe what is the first thing that comes to your mind, that will give you an indication of the dominant habitual thoughts that are running in the back of your mind. To change them you have to reprogram the mind by redirecting your focus to what you want. Every time you think of your desire or SP, you should be affirming.

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  10. What does it mean that if I can conceive or perceive my desire it exists regarding reconcile with SP. is it a parallel reality

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    1. Every scenario you can imagine, you have the potential to create in your 3D by aligning your thoughts to that scenario. Each desire / scenario you can imagine already exists.

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    1. Neville Goddard referred to it as states. Absolutely everything you can conceive of is consciousness. Therefore, I think he compared the idea of parallel realities to states of consciousness. Each state represents a different reality. “If you are dissatisfied with your present expression in life the only way to change it, is to take your attention away form that which seems so real to you and rise in consciousness to that which you desire to be. You cannot serve two masters, therefore to take your attention from one state of consciousness and place it upon another is to die to one and live to the other.” – Neville Goddard.

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  14. Hello! I just need some help because I’m on the verge of crying. So my sp has a crush on this famous girl and she knows about it and I’ve been doing good at not reacting but I just forgot about her existence and all of a sudden I stepped upon a video of hers on tv and she was being very provocative in it and it made me very insecure and now I’m scared my sp will chose her over me. Could this be like a purge or maybe not?

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    1. Hi Rose, remember you make the rules in your reality, your desire is literally done, the only thing preventing you from having it is you not accepting it as yours. You give everything a meaning, therefore think more positively about your SP, recreate him to be the person you want, like he only wants me, he would never pick another woman over me. You get what you focus on, therefore stop giving the other girl any air time in your world. I’m not a big believer of purges, when you get any opposing thoughts to your desire, that is when you have to push back harder and not accept no for an answer, like Neville said it’s a test. “Do you always turn to your imagination and, no matter what happens, do you remain faithful to the state imagined? If you do, you have passed the test. But if every little rumour, doubt, or fear can move you around like a pawn on a chessboard, then you are not keeping the faith!”

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  16. Sia, please make a post about revision technique. I said something bad to my sp. Finally he said it’s over everything is over. I really don’t know what to do. Shall I do revision technique?

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    1. Revision is simple, you can do it on the spot or before going to bed. Imagine the event how you wanted it to be instead of how it was. In your situation, I would forget what happened in the 3D, it’s happened done move on from it, don’t keep repeating that story, just tell yourself he didn’t mean what he said, everything will work out exactly how I want it too. I would tell myself he is feeling bad about what he said and will apologise.

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      1. I sia I have a quick question can I manifest someone who is in different country and doesn’t want to commit and never wants to return in my country?

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    1. Hi Dani, I will do a post on this as free will is a lengthy topic. I’ve briefly covered it in the everyone is you pushed out post. http://imagination-is-life.com/2020/11/19/everybody-is-you-pushed-out-eiypo-explained/. Basically I believe people do not have free will in your life, they will appear in your life how you assume they will, if you believe someone is loving, loyal and caring they will conform to that, if you believe someone is nasty, rude and aggressive that is how they have to appear in your life. That is why two people can experience the same person very differently.

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  19. hi Sia, I met a wonderful guy at the beginning of summer. it was as if I scripted him into my life and he felt the same about me too. I am 10 years older than him and this has been a point of much angst for us. I told him all summer that we were in an unsustainable relationship and he would always try to convince me that it’s not and we can work on it. Towards the end of summer, he started voicing the same doubts that I had been telling him for 6 months and I see how I created the doubts in his head. another thing I was certain about was that his mother wouldn’t approve of me and lo and behold this showed up too. Do I try to change all my thoughts that I had put into this mother’s situation or should I just ignore her? Thanks for all the help and guidance.

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    1. Your SP and his mother are just you pushed out, when you change your thoughts about them and the situation, they will automatically change.

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  20. After being positive and affirming my sp came back after a year….. He’s being very caring, giving me nicknames and talking to me alot… Infact he’s the only one who initiates contact and he’s really interested about my dating life now….. But sometime ago he was dating someone else….how to know if she’s still here?

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    1. That’s great, your SP is back and behaving how you wanted them too 🙂 She does not exist in your reality but if you keep focusing on her instead of your relationship, you will bring her into your 3D.

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  21. Your thoughts do not create. You manifest from your state of being. Thoughts are housed in the STATE you occupy.

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    1. That’s correct but your thoughts are responsible for creating your states. If you can change your thoughts, you can change your state 🙂

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  22. Question, does it matter if the story is present or future tense? I know a lot of ppl say “they’re coming back to me soon’ rather then ‘they are with me right now’

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    1. In my experience it’s doesn’t matter how you affirm it, or the words you use. It is more about the meaning you attach to them words and ensuring the words are inline with your desired reality.

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  23. When undesired circumstances popped up from your sp, maybe he spoke to you in an off tone, took long to text you back or you just didn’t feel like he was into you anymore as compared to what he like prior, do you approach him on it and bring it up or talk to him about it or do you ignore it and keep reaffirming mentally and don’t react?

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    1. Remember you give everything a mean don’t acknowledge he is off with you etc… in your mind affirm what you want the desired outcome to be

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  24. Hi. I successfully manifested my SP from the day we chatted from the day he visited me in my country where I live. Every event happened as exactly as I visualized and believed. The days he was here was the best and we had an amazing connection and even behaved like a couple. However when he flew back, things changed and he became cold with no messages. So I am now back in the journey of altering my reality with him. I am ignoring the 3D of him not communicating and focusing on creating. I have no doubts that he will be back. 100%. Am I on the right track?

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    1. Hi, yes the 3D is dead it is based on your past thoughts, focus on the future and desired reality then it has to show up in your reality…it’s the law.

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    1. It doesn’t matter what the 3D shows you, if you believe your imagination is what creates. The third party is just a reflection of your fears therefore not relevant. Let the fears go and the 3rd party will also disappear.

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  26. Dear Sia,

    I love your blog, and it has given me incredible energy. I have a question, I have been repeating the affirmations “He loves me, he misses me, and he only wants to be with me,” and they have made me very sad because I sensed that my specific person (SP) is exactly as described in those affirmations—depressed and distant. Could it be that I am truly picking up on his energy? I saw him the other day, and he kept looking at me from afar, unable to approach.

    Best regards.

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    1. Hi, his energy is what you assume it is, you have to ignore the 3D until it changes. the belief in your affirmations and inner state has to be stronger than the 3D

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